Looking back, I think both my exhibitionism and my pansexuality became psychologically connected to freedom. For much of my life, I felt emotionally compressed by expectations surrounding masculinity, sexuality, identity, and even my own body. I grew up carrying a tremendous amount of shame around sexuality while simultaneously experiencing sexual intensity very early in life. […]
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Why Male Bisexuality Still Makes People Uncomfortable
There is still something about male bisexuality that makes many people visibly uncomfortable. Even in cultures that have become more accepting of different sexual identities, bisexual and pansexual men are often treated differently from almost everyone else. The discomfort is not always openly hostile, but it reveals itself through assumptions, stereotypes, jokes, and the immediate […]
For most of my life, I understood silence as survival. Not dramatic silence. Not the kind born from fear of violence or rejection at every turn. A quieter kind. The kind that develops slowly over years of learning which parts of yourself make people uncomfortable. There are a lot of bisexual men you probably know […]
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Labels Don’t Define Me and Only Make Me Smaller
Why do we have labels? “He’s a father”, “She’s a hiker”, “They are a teacher”, “He’s gay”, “She’s straight”, “He’s bi”, etc. They really all only exist for one purpose. Society puts them on us for “relation”. So that we can say “Oh, I understand him because he has the same label as me. He’s […]
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The Feeling Of Three (or More) Bodies Connected
The average person growing up, and growing old will (in my opinion) only really know what it feels like to be with another person one at a time. Most people define sex as something that is intimate between two people. Yes, there is definitely intimacy an emotional bond that cannot be defined by words when […]
As a bisexual man with a high sex drive in a straight and gay world, it has caused me to do some things that I am not so proud of (and at other times things I was proud of). Whether it’s hooking up with that guy on Grindr or having a spur-of-the-moment romp with a […]
Our skin is the largest organ of the human body. It protects us from the elements. It keeps us safe from bacteria and most viruses. The skin also acts as a portal to the rest of the world around us. Can you imagine living in a world where you cannot feel anything? What might that […]
An orgasm is defined by many as something that is best shared with someone you love. I disagree. An orgasm is something that has a place with lovers and at times it is something that can be shared with a friend. We all need to be held. We all need to be touched and we all […]
It’s been a bit of an introspective Friday and I find myself thinking about why being bare, being nude is so important to me. Some of my close friends get it, my immediate family – for the most part, gets it, but I know it confuses them a little. There are of course times when […]
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What a Bisexual Person Gives Up – Being in a Monogamous Relationship
I didn’t choose to be bisexual. There is nothing I can do to “turn it on” or “turn it off”, I simply am. To my knowledge, I have been all my life. I can recall being a child and finding other men and women both attractive. I just learned at some point that it was […]
