Sex Unleashed
Warning: Reader discretion is advised. The content within this series is intended for mature audiences only and is only for educational purposes.
Over the next few weeks, I will be writing a series called “Sex unleashed in modern society.” I will be focusing on the sexual nature of our society, underground sexual practices and also delve into the realities of sex and humanity’s perception of sex. The primary goal of this series is to educate the masses about the world of sex that exists right under their noses—as well as help men understand that they are not alone in their desires, fetishes and sex drives.
It is important to understand that the experiences within this series are mine and mine alone, but as I have found that many people can relate to them, I am bestowing my wisdom on you the reader.
Masturbation
Jerking off, jacking off, wanking, choking the chicken and of course Rosie Palm and the Five Fingers. These are all autological terms that bring strong visuals and perhaps even embarrassment for men. It’s important that men know that there is no need to be embarrassed on this topic and should be something that we as men can talk about (to a degree). Our male sexuality is defined in how we cope with and understand it and masturbation is a key to this.
Everyone from the local church pastor to the executive up on the fiftieth floor to the homeless man down on State Street all masturbate and I challenge any man who says he has never choked the one eyed snake. It’s human nature and research now shows that we males start playing with our third leg in utero. That’s right—before we are even born we have found a way to get our hands down between our legs and discover what little gift we have been given.
The truth is, from a biological standpoint, it’s only natural that we should start playing with our penises. It’s a bundle of nerves in the most sensitive area of our body and for good reason. Biology (or God, or both depending on how you look at things) has made it extremely desirable for us to impregnate, thus helping us to join the rabbits in being prolific in our reproduction. The masculine instinct has two primary threads, a desire to procreate and a desire to protect. Do not confuse this with emotional or sexual identity. That masculine instinct can be in women as well as men, just as the feminine need to nurture can be in men as well.
Though the one common thread through nearly every man I’ve met is we all need and like to masturbate or we at least like to orgasm, for which masturbation will nearly always help you achieve that desire.
Discovery
When I was a twelve-year-old boy, I lived in a basement bedroom which gave me a comfortable level of privacy. I went into the laundry room one day, took off my clothes and put them in the pile next to the washing machine. Standing there naked I was not seeking out to masturbate, I just grabbed my penis and whipped it up and down as it felt good. Before I knew it, I was erect and suddenly got a warm feeling deep down in my groin. Shortly there after I ejaculated all over the clothes on the floor. Shocked and amazed by the feeling, yet embarrassed by the mess I just made, I quickly covered up the clothes on top with clothes at the bottom of the pile. I turned to head back to my room just as my mother and sister walked into the room talking to each other. Cum dripping off my penis, I quickly walked toward the laundry-room door and surprisingly neither of them acknowledged anything amiss, though my mother said, “Jason, go put some clothes on.” I was relieved they didn’t notice what I had just done or that I had fluid hanging off the end of my still erect penis.
Still exhilarated by the feeling, I went back to my bedroom and brought myself to orgasm two more times. I had inadvertently discovered the art of male masturbation but had also discovered the intoxicating feeling of the orgasm. A feeling I would not let go of easily (a story for another article in this series).
Technique
For a few years, masturbation was fairly vanilla. It never really occurred to me that it could be much of anything beyond what I had done that first day of discovery back when I was twelve. However, I also didn’t need to masturbate that much because myself and a neighbor were regularly having sex from the age of twelve until we were around sixteen (a story for another article in this series).
Over time, I found that there was more than just stroking with the right hand, there was also the left hand! And my how it did feel different to masturbate with the left when I was so accustomed to the feeling of the right hand. It was like someone else was masturbating me, at least for a while. Eventually, I began exploring my private sexuality more and more, experimenting with different techniques such as two handed stroking, rubbing only the head of the penis (glans) and using only two fingers. Each method had different sensations and had its own pros and cons. Below are a few of my more favorite techniques:
Righty or Lefty: Pretty straight forward and vanilla – this involves masturbating by simply holding your penis and stroking it up and down
Double handed chicken choking: Though most men can do this, it is more effective for more well-endowed men. It involves wrapping one hand around the lower part of the penis and one hand around the upper part. Then moving them in unison in an even strong stroke.
Just the man’s glans: This works particularly well if there is another person sleeping in the bed and you need to orgasm. Men with foreskin like myself will be able to do this without lubrication, but men lacking foreskin will most likely need some lube or become chaffed. This involves rubbing the head of your penis between one or two fingers until you reach your desired orgasm.
Where no penis has gone before: The use of masturbaters can be fun and gives you a different sensation than the actual tactile feeling of your hands touching your penis.
Two fingered flip: Typical masturbation involves the entire hand wrapped around the erect penis. However, if you are flaccid (soft) or even want something a little more discreet—two fingers can be a very good option. It allows you to use the skin of the penis itself as a sort of sheath, sliding the core of the member in and out of its own skin. Depending on how aroused you get, this can be a very mind blowing orgasm.
Look ma! No hands!: I know what you’re thinking, “How can you masturbate without any hands at all?” I assure you it’s very possible and it’s a very different orgasm. For this, I recommend you lay on your back relax and take long regular deep breaths. While you do this, don’t concentrate on your manhood, instead, tighten the muscle that you would normally tighten to stop urinating. This is called a kegel. Once you identify that muscle, tighten it and keep it tight (but not hard, just steady). If you maintain it long enough (usually a couple minutes) the muscle will naturally begin to quiver due to the constant strain of tightening it. This is similar to holding your arm straight out for a long time. The muscles just naturally try to find a way to relax and recover.
Focus on maintaining this quivering feeling of the muscle and maintaining the fluttering sensation. The longer you maintain it, the more intense it will become until you can feel a (different) orgasm build up deep inside until you eventually reach full peak orgasm. Now, I almost never actually ejaculate from this type of orgasm but it is none-the-less mind blowing. My instincts tell me that it is actually probably closer to what women feel when they have an orgasm. Perhaps I’m wrong? I’ll never know for sure.
Ain’t no fellatio like auto-fellatio: For those that are flexible enough (like myself), being able to lick one’s own penis or even suck on part of the shaft can be a very stimulating (and often over stimulating) experience. You must be flexible and it helps to be slightly well endowed (but not necessary). Be warned though, if you cannot easily bend over and do this, do not attempt to do it. You can seriously injure yourself. I can’t think of very many things that would be more humiliating than having to be rushed to the hospital because you threw out your back attempting to get your penis into your mouth.
Riding the Edge Baby
Edging is often misunderstood. This is important: If you want to enhance your ability to control the power, length, and intensity of your orgasms, edging is critical. Edging properly involves time and focus. To do this, you masturbate as you normally would, using any number of techniques until that warm feeling develops in your groin and you just barely begin to have orgasmic contractions. Then you immediately need to stop and breathe for a moment. When you feel yourself sliding off slope a little (cooling down), you stroke again to get yourself back there where you feel a few contractions and stop again. Keep doing this for a while, I recommend 30-40 minutes if possible. Once you have been doing this for a half hour or more, get yourself back up on the phase right when you’re having contractions and continue stroking hard. The intensity and volume of the orgasm will be so mind blowing it will shock you.
My understanding from a biological stand point as to why edging is so intense: When you approach your peak with your orgasm and you begin to have contractions deep down at the root of your penis, what is actually happening is your rapid contractions are stimulating your prostate gland as well as squeezing your bulbourethral gland (Cowper’s gland). The Cowper’s gland creates secretions to lubricate and protect the urethra before ejaculation and the prostate creates a fluid that nourishes and protects the sperm. This fluid in conjunction with the prostate fluid is what we commonly refer to as pre-cum. When you are bringing yourself right to the edge of that orgasm, your body is secreting all of these fluids getting ready to release it with the sperm and then you back down. You do this over and over again and this fluid builds up some pressure down near the prostate. Eventually, when you allow yourself to orgasm it results in a massive increase of fluid as it has been building up for a while.
Now, is this healthy? Medically speaking, I don’t know. But physically speaking I have found that this practice has led me to:
- Have more intense “normal” orgasms when having sex with others or by myself.
- Control exactly when I am going to orgasm (preventing premature ejaculation). I have found I can generally orgasm within 2 minutes all the way up to 30-45 minutes depending on how I control the sensations.
- Understand exactly how my body feels and what I can do to enhance the feelings.
Masturbation is about self-exploration and discovery on your own terms, at your own speed and not being afraid to try something a little different. After all, the only person you have to worry about offending is yourself.
